IDENTITY
Where do all the fights and quarrels among you come from? They come from your desires for pleasure, which are constantly fighting within you. You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have what you want because you do not ask God for it. (James 4:1, 2 GNT) Have you ever wondered why some criticisms sting so much more than others? Very often, people find themselves reacting strongly when their "identity" is threatened. We all have ways we define ourselvesÑthe good mother, a great cook, the successful businessman. Fights and quarrels often arise when we feel someone is challenging what we believe about ourselves Our kids are no different. Although they may define their identity differentlyÑthe intelligent student, the beautiful girl, the talented athleteÑthey, too, feel the sting when their identity is threatened. They may respond by questioning whether they...